Bullseye – Children’s greed
Is it really greedy child or he just doesn’t want to share (which is normally perceived, when it comes to adults)? In General, at what age the child is able to divide things on their own and others? Nevertheless, if the baby still does not share with peers how to respond to parents? Needless to accustom to share? How to do it?
“The world is big enough to satisfy the needs of any person, but too small to satisfy human greed.” – M. Gandhi
Define the concept.
The problem of greed the child’s parents first encounter, as a rule, in the sandbox, both literally and figuratively. Starting to think and reason on this subject is very important to understand the meaning of the word. For this, I turned to dictionaries. Summarizing the definition, you can say that. greed is the inordinate desire (feeling) the possession or consumption. This term is better applied to adults than to children. Children inherent egocentrism. Some children get very attached (“attached”) to a toy or some object (this may be an old phone, photo frame, keys…) that just becomes part of the child. The child believes that everything happens for him and he is the reason why this happens. It is difficult to understand that the object that he wants to own may not always be available to him.
What does the age.
Until the year the child separates from the mother, so the toys are of little value, he is ready to share them with everyone, but the lack of the mother is experienced by the child is difficult. But he clearly sees how the mother relates to your belongings and the belongings of other people; my mother she shares, agrees that changing.
Children under the age of two years are ready to parallel play with other children but not with them. They don’t think about what the other child wants or feels.
During the second and third year of life the child starts to become individuality. “I do!” and “Mine!” – basic words baby. During this period it is very important to keep the space of the child. Don’t expect the child to two or two and a half years will easily learn sharing his toys. What the child means by the word “my” is like a part of the baby, so the toys, the clothes, the chair continued the personality of the crumbs. And in this age the child is able to understand the meaning of the word “alien”. You can hear from the baby “This is my dad’s phone. And it’s my mom’s bag”. You need to teach and show by example that if you need to take what is not theirs, you have to ask. I often see that parents easily and WITHOUT demand climbs into the pocket of the child and something get. Or can easily go in his room. Without thinking, parents show a pattern of behavior, which leads to the fact that the child takes toys from other children and doesn’t appreciate the space of another person.
From the age of three the child is able to independently find solutions to the situation, but help adults still relevant. About three or four years, children begin to play with each other and cooperate in the game, they begin to understand the importance of sharing toys and items.
Even at the age of four or five years the child will not always be willing to share. The anxious child may relate to some things. It can be anything: a favorite toy, a piece of cloth or handbag. For him it’s the same thing for you favorite bracelet or a family heirloom that you pass down from generation to generation.
At the age of seven, the child learns to share and understands the importance of this quality.
With the birth of the baby, follow these simple rules in education, as children learn best from their parents.
If your child has made in the house a subject that you accidentally left in an accessible place for him, do not rush to snatch it from the hands of a child. Be sure to ask to give you this thing or shake. Snatching items, toys from the child’s hand as you would say “what you need – you can just pick up.” Always ask or ask permission of the child when taking his things.
If You force your child to share, it is unlikely that he will understand the significance of this. Forcing, you put pressure on a child, thereby causing confusion and protest. Imagine that someone walks up to You and asks for the car keys or bag. What is Your reaction? For the baby his toys, this is how You bag or car and sometimes even more important. Of course, it may be easier to resolve the situation here and now, having made only external action: allow to use the toy to another child. But it is important to educate the child internal quality willingness to share. The child is very important to get the experience.
Show the children an example, tell me that you can play on line, but don’t insist, you can change. Great if you will lose these points with parents of other children with their relatives. But remember that in everyday life the quality that you teach the child, should not be alien to you.
Watching the dispute or a quarrel between children, do not rush to intervene, give the children an opportunity to negotiate independently. They need time, place and situation for this. Stand on the sidelines and watch. Of course, it is not necessary to bring the situation to fights or tantrums. If children decide the issue between them genially, you remain an observer, not a participant.
If Your child took someone’s toy or hurt another child, return the toy and apologize on behalf of their baby. So you show respect. And this is a Prime example to follow. With time he will be able to apologize and be respectful to others.
Encourage your child when he shares, so You show him that generosity is a good thing. Explain to your child how to tell friends about their desires. For example, tell me that you can reach out and to wait, say “when he’s ready, we’ll let you play or watch”. Or suggest to wait until the child has finished, “you will be able to play with this toy”.
If you go hosted, for a walk bring a toy to which the child shows little interest. Great, if you take any toy itself. The guests on the walk is likely to find toys that will interest your child, and their little master will be easier to share with those who also have something interesting. Or you can exchange your toy (which you took for yourself). Be sure to tell your child in advance that when you leave, all the toys will be able to take back. This is important since it is not obvious to children, especially for children under 3 years. So the child will be calmer and will not prevent a mutual exchange and assignment.
A real desire to share based on empathy, ability to understand another perspective and to see the world through his eyes or from his point of view. Children younger than six years struggling with it. Mainly they are divided because you teach them so
Respect and protect the child’s right to own property. Children know their friends. For example, in the group of kindergarten that your child attends have a baby who loves to twist and turn any toys, and can and does throw or stepped on. You will notice that the child is not going to carry the group valuable items or will have them well hidden from active children. Maintain, appreciate this quality in a child. This means that the baby is already appreciates things and cares for him. And, of course it does not has to do with greed.
Self – training is a very important moment in the child’s upbringing, is the ability of a child to cope with the difficulty on their own. A little help or lack thereof on the part of teachers and parents is a big step in development.
Protect the interests of their child. If your child appreciates your toy, respect that feeling, but teach him to be generous. Prior to the game or coming to visit the kids help the kid to share toys to those which he willing to share, and those that should be removed.
Pay attention as you share and how do you refer to objects and things of his child. Be careful and patient.