Education is the systematic targeting of the child’s adult family members and family structure. The main common task of education – preparing children for life in existing social conditions; more narrow, concrete – mastering of knowledge, abilities and skills required for the normal formation of personality in the family.
Goals and means of education due to the socio-economic structure, level of cultural development; family education is usually based on ideology, morality, and relationships of the social layer to which belongs the family.
Family education is inextricably linked with the self-education of adults, their qualities and character traits that ensure effective teaching impact on children.
It’s okay if to slap the child or give him a slap: not painful and effective. Nobody has ever managed to learn through physical punishment. With it you can only suppress, force, but not to teach. By the way, in the end, the children prefer to get a few licks than listening to the endless cries of parents, reproaches and grunts. So this is only the situation when one nonsense replaces another, not giving a result. Permanent physical punishment inhibit the activity contribute to the development of neuroses and fears that threaten physical and mental development. Moreover, it is forbidden to make cuffs or otherwise affect the head, responsible for the thinking man. If we decide to threaten the child, then your weapon should not be the belt, and something funny and harmless, for example, pants, bag and etc.
You need to constantly praise your child. Recall the words of Paracelsus: “Everything is poison and all the medicine the only difference is in the dose”. Praise for effects similar to a drug: the more you praise, the more I want you praised. If the child is not notable for his great talents, and his praise from childhood, even highlighting those features, what it lacks, or has inadequate, it can lead to terrible consequences in adolescence and older age. Scary to realize that all I told you is a lie!
– don’t praise the children for what has been achieved not by their own labour;
– no need to praise natural abilities and qualities: intelligence, talent, beauty, strength, health, etc.;
– not praise for what was easy – good grades in school, obtained without much difficulty, clothes, toys, fearless deeds on the verge of stupidity;
– don’t praise a few times for one and the same.
But there is an important rule: if you do not know praise or not, make sure you praise!
You don’t have to show my love to the children they hurt. Parental love for children is necessary. Don’t need to let your feelings out, if the child accepts them: hug him, cuddle. You do not lose anything, and your warmth and kindness will warm his heart, will bring peace to the soul. Love is not an assessment. To love does not mean to praise. Love is first and foremost to create an aura of protection and understanding. Showing love to younger, don’t forget about senior: age of children is not important, love should be for all without exception, and it requires a tactful display.
Without constant supervision and strictness on the part of parents, the child will blossom and come into bad company, a gangster group. Paradoxically, but in such organizations frequently, children from good families and the reason, as a rule, excessive strictness, under permanent control. Without noticing it, parents enslave the child. Should not be surprised that these children are prone to violence – parents taught them. Forced under the spell of adults, obeying, without the right to make decisions for yourself, standing in the corners for the slightest offense, they have already experienced emotional violence on themselves and now bring him into the world in the perverted form.
Child thinks and perceives the world as an adult. The child is not able to be rational. He feels this world and not yet corrupted by life. Adults some “serious motives” are incited to deeds, and the child acts on the instantaneous impulse and desire. That is why children are so unpredictable. Adult – already formed man with his established character and morality. The child is confused all the time myself, cannot understand the wishes and feelings. It is very difficult to understand adults. The child cannot think like a big man, he thinks differently, differently. He’s not worse than us and in any case not stupid, he’s different. You have to accept it and to improve relationships should try to understand him.
Child easier – his world is small and limited. Remember yourself as a child, the houses were very tall, big trees, the nights full of horror stories, condensed milk and sweeter than candy, and grandmother’s village – the unknown country. This is the age of the children’s world seems small and insignificant. In children, another space and another time. For them, their little world – the whole universe. It is difficult for them in it, and even adults create a lot of problems: I do not understand why the child is standing in puddles (ocean…), why swearing (and these words the parents spoke this morning to each other…), why he climbed a tall tree (with him see better, and maybe it’s the mast of the ship or the staff…). So it’s not his world is narrow, and your understanding of his world is limited.
The child lives on earth thanks to the parents and obliged to obey them. Sorry to be rude, but he didn’t ask you to give birth. His birth was supposed to be a joy for you. So you should be based on the fact that he’s a full-fledged citizen on earth as you are. He doesn’t live for you and no thanks to you. He lives near you. You have to help him in the formation, as you are responsible for it. If he depends on you financially (this is the law of life), it does not mean that you must obey. Every child wants to live by their wits and strength. Want a good relationship – learn how to manage the child unobtrusively help to stand on his feet and release at the right moment.
It is impossible to praise your child in advance. Possible and even necessary. This method even has a name in teaching practice: accelerated approval. The main principle is to tell the child: “You can do it!” The child needs to say that he is better, stronger, smarter, kinder than it seems. Waking child in the morning and praise him immediately. “Get up, count, you expect great things!” – exactly woke the servant of the famous French philosopher Saint-Simon. The morning will provide a positive impetus for the whole day and will help to survive with honor all the failures. And don’t forget to praise the night, let the baby fall asleep with thoughts of good and with a sense of your love for him.
For education it is necessary to force children to eat up all during the meal. But this is just dangerous. Food abuse is not only a moral blow to the child, but physical harm to the body. Want your child finished his all – put him a little. If he doesn’t eat, it asks again. If it does not climb the entire portion is not his fault. The child doesn’t want to eat, so he’s not hungry. He’s not a beast, don’t feed. But it is very important that the child had a routine, and eating area was allocated a specific time when the whole family gathers around the table. Children get used to such rhythm and problems with food just will not be.
It is necessary to force children to learn, even if they don’t want. The child, of course, will have to remember all that stuff. But know this: the knowledge obtained under pressure, as a rule, are not absorbed. Many children, having finished music school and as adults, don’t even take up an instrument. Forcibly jagged knowledge flies out of memory very quickly – it’s the paradox of short-term memory. If you want the child really learned, it must be of interest, to create a feeling of joy that acquired knowledge and experience. Then he will begin to absorb knowledge like a sponge, and you will just have to create for it the appropriate conditions.