Parents and children
Our instinctive love of children (ethologists would say — parental care) we are not alone in the animal world. In many species, parents attached to their children. Often, it is only to his own. Gull, great mom, biting and can even kill the alien chick, wandered on her colognebuy territory. And to wander long in the colony, all nests nearby. There are people (and quite a lot of them, usually they just hide it) who also love their children. But in most people there is another love — the love of children in General. Other people’s children. And this, from the point of view of the instinctive programs, not one and the same. When it originated and what was? This is a very interesting story, and it leads us to the emergence of man. Our closest relatives — the great apes — the way of life of its collectors, and as our direct ancestors. They don’t live in herds, and a very small kinship groups. And it is clear: major collector to anything big, hard-organized herd. Everyone gathers for himself, and not a lot of food will collect, collect if around others. You have many instinctive programs corresponding to this lifestyle: territorialism with his desire not to let outsiders into their territory, the instinct Continue reading
Child theft is the so-called “shameful” problems. For any parent this is usually a shock: the child in the family because no one teaches them to steal, and he takes someone else’s…
This child’s behavior is perceived by the family as evidence of his incurable immorality. “We have no one in the family never did!” — I often hear from those affected relatives. Not only that, the child shames the family, the parents of his future is solely criminal. Though actually, in most cases, it’s not all bad.
The idea of what is “mine” and “theirs”, appears after three years, when he begins to develop a sense of self. Nobody in their right mind would call a thief two-three-year-old, who took without asking anyone’s thing. But the older the child, the more likely that his act would be regarded as an attempt to misappropriate, in other words — as “theft”.
The age of the child in such situation is conclusive evidence of awareness of the committed, although it is not always true. (There are known cases, when children are seven or eight years didn’t realize that by adopting someone’s thing, they violate the generally accepted norms, but sometimes, I have five children, committing theft, well aware that doing bad).
For example, could be considered a thief five year old boy who, feeling great sympathy to his peers, Continue reading
Parents wonder why their child is lying, because in their family, this behavior is not practiced.Other parents just burn with shame for their child, lie their baby becomes public property, have already learned teachers or educators. There are among parents and those who are completely deluded by their child’s behavior. They admit that they don’t know what to believe and what not.
But what would have been the reaction of parents to lie to children, the ratio is always unambiguously negative. And the question of what to do and how to wean the child to lie, to tell lies and mislead others in, is very relevant.
A psychologist come when all known methods have been tried. A request or an order “Stop lying!”, the child was ignored, physical punishment does not have the desired effect, and the threats were not heeded. To understand what to do in situations when your child is cheating, let’s see, why and why he does it.
As I said, children lying is a very common phenomenon, but in each case it’s always a unique story. However, in most cases, a lie is a consequence Continue reading