” Mom, I’m scared! — with a shout and cry ran into the parent’s bedroom a little Pasha. Clinging to his mother’s breast, he babbled:
— There… dark… under the bed… terrible…
Mom put her son beside him, patted on the head, and he immediately fell asleep.
— Lisa, so not, — said in a whisper dad, Anatoly Vasiliev. — so You will want to grow up the son of a weakling and a rag. Nothing to appease his fears. Or do you want him to 18 years old slept with us in the same bed?
— what do you suggest? — offended Lisa. — to Lock him in the room — and let him cry into hysterics? You know, better to let the wuss and wuss than neurotic or schizophrenic.
— I Agree, this is also not an option. But then what to do?
— Go to sleep… Tomorrow go ask your mom. It is after all a teacher has worked all her life, have an understanding of child psychology.
The next day on a visit to Vasiliev came grandmother, Elena. After playing with his grandson and putting him for a NAP, she listened to the arguments of both parents, smiled and began her story. — Ah, youth, how I understand you. Because the problem of children’s fears faced by all parents, and my grandfather is no exception. Here you are, Continue reading
Feeling a sense of loss, resentment, adolescents still be able to adequately imagine the causes and consequences of divorce, the quality of their relationships with each parent. Boys in most cases, experiencing negative feelings towards his father and strongly attached to his mother. In girls in relation to mother appear critical notes: “For not watching, it is clear why dad left”. Sometimes admire his new girlfriend.
Every parent should discuss with the child his feelings, persuade and words and actions that neither one of the parents will. The child needs to communicate with relatives and mother’s side and father’s side, with their peers, actively participate in public and social life, exercise. It is very important to help the child to find an area of success where children can realize their potential and abilities. This allows you to escape from unpleasant thoughts, enhances self-esteem, does not allow the child to withdraw into themselves.
TIPS FOR PARENTS
v If the divorce was not by mutual consent, if one of the spouses traumatized by the divorce left him, some children are traumatized even more. They see the suffering that dear one them people brought as well a dear person. And love-they are both parents. They can’t be not on any side, and parents often expect the children stand Continue reading
Going to file for divorce and want a minor child is left to live with You, because they have the best material and housing conditions? Go towards the court? It is possible.
Family code of the Russian Federation establishes the right of the child to live and grow up in a family, to know their parents and to be cared for by parents and shared with them accommodation, but often in our lives, the opposite is true, and parents have to divorce.
According to article 61 of the Family code “ Parents have equal rights and bear equal responsibilities towards their children (parental right) ”. If the parents cannot come to an agreement about the exercise of parental rights, the dispute is settled by the court, upon the request of one or both parents, with the participation of body of guardianship and guardianship. To disputes connected with education of children: the debate about the place of residence of the child when the parents live apart (paragraph 3 of article 65 of the RF IC); on the implementation of the parental rights of the parent living separately from the child (paragraph 2 of article 66 of the family code); the elimination of obstacles to communicating with a child of his close relatives ( section 3 of article 67 of the family code); the return of the child’s parents held not on the basis of law or judicial Continue reading