Feeling a sense of loss, resentment, adolescents still be able to adequately imagine the causes and consequences of divorce, the quality of their relationships with each parent. Boys in most cases, experiencing negative feelings towards his father and strongly attached to his mother. In girls in relation to mother appear critical notes: “For not watching, it is clear why dad left”. Sometimes admire his new girlfriend.
Every parent should discuss with the child his feelings, persuade and words and actions that neither one of the parents will. The child needs to communicate with relatives and mother’s side and father’s side, with their peers, actively participate in public and social life, exercise. It is very important to help the child to find an area of success where children can realize their potential and abilities. This allows you to escape from unpleasant thoughts, enhances self-esteem, does not allow the child to withdraw into themselves.
TIPS FOR PARENTS
v If the divorce was not by mutual consent, if one of the spouses traumatized by the divorce left him, some children are traumatized even more. They see the suffering that dear one them people brought as well a dear person. And love-they are both parents. They can’t be not on any side, and parents often expect the children stand Continue reading
Parents and children
Our instinctive love of children (ethologists would say — parental care) we are not alone in the animal world. In many species, parents attached to their children. Often, it is only to his own. Gull, great mom, biting and can even kill the alien chick, wandered on her colognebuy territory. And to wander long in the colony, all nests nearby. There are people (and quite a lot of them, usually they just hide it) who also love their children. But in most people there is another love — the love of children in General. Other people’s children. And this, from the point of view of the instinctive programs, not one and the same. When it originated and what was? This is a very interesting story, and it leads us to the emergence of man. Our closest relatives — the great apes — the way of life of its collectors, and as our direct ancestors. They don’t live in herds, and a very small kinship groups. And it is clear: major collector to anything big, hard-organized herd. Everyone gathers for himself, and not a lot of food will collect, collect if around others. You have many instinctive programs corresponding to this lifestyle: territorialism with his desire not to let outsiders into their territory, the instinct Continue reading
Ideally, most parents expect the boy’s education will lead to the establishment of a real man. But “running the show” not only the parents, although their behavior can often be the determining factor.
The main task of parents is to promote effective, positive development of the child and gain their own perspective ways. Taking account of raising a boy would be essential.
The current model for men is different. The boy’s education should be geared to this. Today a man must have is not so much physical force, mind and intelligence to succeed. In addition, modern boys can be trained and work around the house. Women, their future lady, assumed some of the financial worries, removing the sole responsibility with men for the family’s prosperity. It is also important to teach the current boys to family values, to the upbringing of future children. In current time the father’s influence on children’s lives, starting with preparation for birth and the birth itself, increases. Successful man today is a worthy dad. For a boy it is important the large space and physical activity. Arrange in a room, sports area, go out often on the Playground with a ball or go for a walk on bikes, on roller skates. Boys, like men, tend to unite. Let this Association Continue reading