Feeling a sense of loss, resentment, adolescents still be able to adequately imagine the causes and consequences of divorce, the quality of their relationships with each parent. Boys in most cases, experiencing negative feelings towards his father and strongly attached to his mother. In girls in relation to mother appear critical notes: “For not watching, it is clear why dad left”. Sometimes admire his new girlfriend.
Every parent should discuss with the child his feelings, persuade and words and actions that neither one of the parents will. The child needs to communicate with relatives and mother’s side and father’s side, with their peers, actively participate in public and social life, exercise. It is very important to help the child to find an area of success where children can realize their potential and abilities. This allows you to escape from unpleasant thoughts, enhances self-esteem, does not allow the child to withdraw into themselves.
TIPS FOR PARENTS
v If the divorce was not by mutual consent, if one of the spouses traumatized by the divorce left him, some children are traumatized even more. They see the suffering that dear one them people brought as well a dear person. And love-they are both parents. They can’t be not on any side, and parents often expect the children stand Continue reading
Education is the systematic targeting of the child’s adult family members and family structure. The main common task of education – preparing children for life in existing social conditions; more narrow, concrete – mastering of knowledge, abilities and skills required for the normal formation of personality in the family.
Goals and means of education due to the socio-economic structure, level of cultural development; family education is usually based on ideology, morality, and relationships of the social layer to which belongs the family.
Family education is inextricably linked with the self-education of adults, their qualities and character traits that ensure effective teaching impact on children.
It’s okay if to slap the child or give him a slap: not painful and effective. Nobody has ever managed to learn through physical punishment. With it you can only suppress, force, but not to teach. By the way, in the end, the children prefer to get a few licks than listening to the endless cries of parents, reproaches and grunts. So this is only the situation when one nonsense replaces another, not giving a result. Permanent physical punishment inhibit the activity contribute to the development of neuroses and fears that threaten physical and mental development. Moreover, it is forbidden Continue reading
Ideally, most parents expect the boy’s education will lead to the establishment of a real man. But “running the show” not only the parents, although their behavior can often be the determining factor.
The main task of parents is to promote effective, positive development of the child and gain their own perspective ways. Taking account of raising a boy would be essential.
The current model for men is different. The boy’s education should be geared to this. Today a man must have is not so much physical force, mind and intelligence to succeed. In addition, modern boys can be trained and work around the house. Women, their future lady, assumed some of the financial worries, removing the sole responsibility with men for the family’s prosperity. It is also important to teach the current boys to family values, to the upbringing of future children. In current time the father’s influence on children’s lives, starting with preparation for birth and the birth itself, increases. Successful man today is a worthy dad. For a boy it is important the large space and physical activity. Arrange in a room, sports area, go out often on the Playground with a ball or go for a walk on bikes, on roller skates. Boys, like men, tend to unite. Let this Association Continue reading