The Education of individual children preschool age
Nurturing independence in children of preschool age
I want to quote the words of the great teacher of J. Korczak: “If you know how to determine the joy of a child and its power, you should know that the highest joy is overcome the difficulties of the goal achieved, open secrets, the joy of triumph and happiness of independence…”
Usually parents start to think about autonomy in their child when he starts to go to school. However, to begin cultivating this quality need much earlier — and the sooner, the greater success you can achieve.
I invite you to speculate a bit.
Self — reliance is a valuable asset to a man in my life. Can a small child to be independent? (asked parents). (Yes. The child must be a number of things it can do on your own.)
By nature children are very active and very often they tend to do things on their own. But for lack of time or uncertainty about the abilities of the child we strive to make all for it ourselves. What do you think? Do we really your child’s support? (asked parents). (You are absolutely right. Trying to do everything for the child, adult causes him great harm, deprive him of independence.
By three years the child dramatically increases the desire for independence. He has a strong wish to assert themselves.
To suppress these impulses of children in any case can not, it can lead to negativism, stubbornness, it can lead to self-will. That is, not just disobedience, and the desire to do the opposite. Thus, the suppression of children’s independence can have a serious negative impact on the personality development of the child.
Now, children strive for independence. But the question arises: “What they are able to do yourself?”
– Wash hands, zaachila sleeves; wash your face without splashing water; the correct use of soap; not to wet clothing; dry to dry off with a towel, without reminders to hang it on the allotted space.
– Dress and undress in a certain sequence: clothes folding, hanging and unbutton, zip up closure.
Notice the disorder in clothing and correct it or ask for help from an adult.
– The timely use handkerchief, toilet.
– Drink from a Cup, eat, chew well.
– The right to use a spoon.
– Clean up toys in a certain place.
In order to acquire these skills require the help of an adult. We must create the necessary conditions for the existence of independence. Adapted to the growth of the child the hanger for dressing, to allocate space for storage of toiletries, permanent and comfortable place for towels, shoes.
Before expect from your child’s autonomy, his need to teach the steps required in the process of dressing, washing, eating. In the work of self-teaching a baby to follow through, to do the job efficiently. For example, are taught not only to remove clothing in a certain sequence, but to turn every thing on the front side, carefully fold it, hang it.
Invite you to reflect on the situation:
1 . “Kolya with zeal pulls tights. Difficult exercise! Finally, after much effort, tights almost worn, but inside out. The kid, of course, doesn’t notice and continues to pull them. Mom stops as she says, this “aimless romp”, a quick movement, not hiding his irritation, trying to pull the child tights. The kid raises the cry:
— Myself! Himself! Himself!
Sit quietly and mind your manners! Not able to, and shout “himself”.
Whether mother did? Justify Your opinion.
— Why do you think she did?
— What would you mom Koli?
If you are constantly braking is desired, the children can grow passive, not able to overcome the difficulties, they expect that they will do everything adults. You should never do for the child what he can do for himself, – it must become the rule for each of the adults, if they want to build the baby’s activity, initiative, perseverance, diligence, ability to overcome difficulties.
2 . “Alyosha, compared with children of his age completely helpless, protest greets any suggestion to show independence. To remove mittens unable to button up and untie the drawstring doesn’t want, sitting at the table waiting for his feed. If they are reminded that we must eat the most, as all, the boy lowers his head, tears in his eyes and plaintively says: “do Not want!” “Don’t!”
But a home with older Alesha overbearing, demanding tone, eyes always on duty tears. And adults in a hurry to warn them, his regret: “He’s so helpless!”, “He is still so little!”. It is often pronounced in the presence of the boy.”
— What is the helplessness of Alyosha?
— Analyze the behavior of adults and give her assessment.
— Is it possible by such methods to educate the child freedom?
Trying to develop in your child the independence that adults often make common opposing errors: overprotection of the child (Hyper) and the total removal of assistance from the child support (hiphopera). In the case of excessive guardianship of a child can become infantile, in the latter case, helpless, stubborn.
Fostering independence, try as little as possible to resort to comments, instructions, the attitude. More lean on encouragement and praise. Laudable diligence, perseverance, resourcefulness of the child, the desire to have the attention, assistance to parents, to learn new actions.
Evaluating an action of the child, it is not enough to say, “well Done” or “Wrong”, it should be specified that the child is well, and that he quite failed. Your evaluation is important for the child, it is because you have to be tactful and stick measures. Praise must not be false, exaggerated. It must be deserved. Objective assessment helps to reinforce in children the desire to do it ourselves, the ability to overcome difficulties, to achieve results.
In younger preschool age children have a lot of heritance. All they had seen, both good and bad, is reflected in their behavior. Thus, in order to educate children in the independence, accuracy, father and mother should be a role model. If you do not put things in place, handle them carefully, and will only demand it for the children, you will not be able to instill in your child the habit of neatness. Children of school age must also be an example for younger brothers and sisters.
To create for the child the necessary conditions for the development of self-reliance.
Do not scold the child if he can’t do something.
To treat a child as to an adult family member to be tolerated.