The Formation of personality
The formation of personality . Socialization of personality. It is the family is the primary educator of the child. Not school, not the street, not peers and not psychologists. They can correct a child’s behavior, but the effect of their influence is directly proportional to the influence of those closest to you.
From early childhood, from moms and dads, grandmas and grandpas the person learns the patterns of behavior, attitudes, values, knowledge and skills, which later comes into society.
And how he was raised, socialized, influence on how the child will become in the future – confident or infantile, good or evil, peaceful or aggressive.
Who affect the child?
The formation of personality . socialization – this is the main task of parents in the upbringing of the child. The major and most challenging! Maybe because hardly anyone of us is professional. Even professionals, mistakes can happen. What can we say about such a complex profession as mother and father, which is nowhere taught.
But to learn this art, you can: if you sincerely want to make the effort. Then communication with children will bring only joy.
From friends we often hear: “street (school, friends…) affect my child”, “I am raising-raising, and he was like-rasaki…”, “genes don’t get crushed…” etc. This phrase is not an attempt of a parent to deny responsibility for the result of your upbringing, to justify himself.
Alas! – such arguments do not allow a difficult situation, do not allow to find the errors and correct them, but rather aggravate it. Only the person who takes responsibility, seeks to correct his own behavior, is willing to exert effort, and can eliminate “the problem” around.
Suggest to assimilate: it is the mental strain of the family exerts a powerful negative influence on children’s personality development. The process of education street, friends, school connected much later, and their influence is greatly adjusted the wealth of knowledge and experience which the child has made and makes the family.
Families are different…
In psychology there are many different typologies of the family, there are different types of relationships in the family. entailing a certain communication. We will focus on a single type family, where the basis is prevailing in the family environment.
All psychologists have identified five groups of families:
1. Families are very close and friendly relations between parents and children.
Such an atmosphere favorable for all family members. Parents have the opportunity to influence different aspects of the life of a son or daughter. Seniors listen to the views of children in matters of contemporary music, fashion, Hobbies. And kids appreciate what their parents think about the relationship with different people, about other important worldly matters.
The formation of personality. socialization in the family goes well. Those who were lucky enough to grow up in such families usually become active, creative, friendly and independent people.
2. The family friendly atmosphere, but there is a certain distance between adults and children.
Parents watching the development of children, interested in their life, trying to exert influence by virtue of its development and capabilities. In these families there are conflicts, but they are open and usually resolved immediately. Parents believe, trust them. However, between adults and children there is a certain distance, which is sometimes emphasized by the reference to the eldest in the family.
In such families children grow normally polite, friendly, compliant, obedient. However, they rarely declare their independence, usually do not know how or are afraid to “be creative”.
3. Families where parents pay enough attention to children’s education, their way of life, but only.
Usually the children from such families have all the necessities of life: clothing, audio and video equipment, in older age may be even a motorcycle or a car. In the house they are allocated a separate room with expensive furniture, placed on the orders of their parents. As a rule, the older strictly monitor the satisfaction of all material needs of Chad, as well as order and cleanliness. The main thing – to be “not worse than others!”.
As a result, children in such families are financially secure is better than their peers. But often parents neglect the Hobbies and interests of the children, ignoring their spiritual needs, but to impose their desires. This behavior prevents normal formation of personality, as well as her socialization, and sooner or later creates a certain barrier between adults and children, leads to conflict situations. For resolution of their problems in adolescence, children often go outside to peers.
4. The family where the child is not trusted, often — correct his behavior after the assault.
In such families there is always a conflict between grown-up children and parents. Sometimes it is hidden and only occasionally breaks out. And sometimes, the conflict develops into an open and permanent.
If small children are forced to endure such an attitude, in adolescents from such families gradually there is a strong hostility to parents, distrust of adults in General. Arise and difficulties in communicating with peers, with the world. The child may withdraw into themselves and may become aggressive and “unmanaged”.
5. Families, where there is anti-social atmosphere.
Perhaps children who live in such families, — the most miserable. Often, the situation here is critical: drinking one or both parents. Abandon, rudeness, anger ‘educate’ weak soul, the child lacks the necessary material things, not realized his spiritual needs.
For the development and socialization of the individual impact of such families is very detrimental: it is the cause of many crimes teenagers and then adults.
Understanding parents, what type of their family, leads to an understanding of what can cause these or other relationships between adults and children. Think: how do we see your child in the future? And choose the right tactics of relationships and interactions with children to form a healthy personality and to help her socialization.
If the conflict of generations — in the middle, if you urgently need to change something in the relationship with the child may article «How to overcome the eternal conflict between fathers and children » will help to understand the situation. Good luck!