“Stop bitching!” “I forbid you!” “You watch it!?” “Don’t insult me!” and many more exclamations addressed to the child, often proceed from our lips. Why are we yelling at your child when he is naughty, or from their lyubopytno learns, and goes wherever he is banned?
What are the reasons that we’re yelling at your crumbs, sometimes even spanking?
So let’s speculate over the cause of our cry to the child. Well — the first and main reason in us adults — we don’t know how to control it.
Here are a few reasons for this child’s education:
*Education cries because us the same method was raised.
*Parent thinks that he is raising a child, and this method shows a main, thus thinking they have the right, at any nurturing.
*Mom or dad, just not ready to face difficulties. Not ready for that child, despite the mood mom or dad may require attention, or to explore the world as he wants.
*Another reason is, the fatigue and the ability to adequately respond to the demands or whims of the child.
*The parent has his or her own concerns, interests, which are apparently more important than the child.
In General, for many reasons, can be listed as an individual case, as a psychological barrier.
Cry on whims or disobedience of the child, this is not a method of education. By this method we show Continue reading
When we draw, we are most actively working the right hemisphere of the brain. And it was there that focus on intuition, creative thinking, imagination and other irrational ‘stuff’.
Psychologists, parapsychologists and esoterica agree that our subconscious knows everything about us. It keeps the secret of our past (some experts believe that the past incarnations of the soul), about the future, about the causes of our failures, fears, or, conversely, about the hidden reserves of the organism, talents and abilities. All secret becomes obvious, when a person, without thinking, started to draw. Especially brightly this phenomenon occurs in children. Want to know what’s bothering your child that lurks in his subconscious that prevents him in life or what is able to unleash his talents, relieve stress, eliminate fears? Give him a sheet of paper and crayons and ask them to draw pictures of their family. When the picture is ready, You will be able to interpret the following text, which is designed by specialists in family psychology .
If the figure of the child depicted not only family members but also other strangers, this may mean that the baby lacks the close and warm relationship with their parents. He subconsciously looking for someone who is able to meet your needs.
Note the color of the picture. Continue reading
So, let’s continue the conversation about how to properly educate a girl for future motherhood. In the previous article dealt with the period from birth to three years. But time goes on and our girls grow up. So, let’s move on to the next period:
FROM 3 TO 4.5 YEARS
The interaction with the mother. How mom participated in the emotional life of his daughter, depends on the attitude of girls towards their future motherhood. If the girl showed excessive demands, shouted at her, strictly punished, in her mind formed the concept of “bad parents”. Subsequently, this may cause psychological infertility: consciously a woman wants children, but subconsciously insanely afraid to hurt them.
Another important point: did the girl satisfaction with their moms in motherhood, or maybe she was presented it as a thankless labor. If my daughter often hears from his mother’s words: “I’m sick of it! Work for you, and in return, no thanks. “she formed the notion that children are a burden, a source of eternal fatigue and bad mood.
The object to follow. In this age there is another very important need – to imitate. What would mother do, my daughter always wants to participate: to wash, to cook, to knit, to remove. Of course, a small child is more hindrance than help, but it cannot repel.
Playing dolls. The little girl Continue reading