Parents and children
Our instinctive love of children (ethologists would say — parental care) we are not alone in the animal world. In many species, parents attached to their children. Often, it is only to his own. Gull, great mom, biting and can even kill the alien chick, wandered on her colognebuy territory. And to wander long in the colony, all nests nearby. There are people (and quite a lot of them, usually they just hide it) who also love their children. But in most people there is another love — the love of children in General. Other people’s children. And this, from the point of view of the instinctive programs, not one and the same. When it originated and what was? This is a very interesting story, and it leads us to the emergence of man. Our closest relatives — the great apes — the way of life of its collectors, and as our direct ancestors. They don’t live in herds, and a very small kinship groups. And it is clear: major collector to anything big, hard-organized herd. Everyone gathers for himself, and not a lot of food will collect, collect if around others. You have many instinctive programs corresponding to this lifestyle: territorialism with his desire not to let outsiders into their territory, the instinct Continue reading
Education is the systematic targeting of the child’s adult family members and family structure. The main common task of education – preparing children for life in existing social conditions; more narrow, concrete – mastering of knowledge, abilities and skills required for the normal formation of personality in the family.
Goals and means of education due to the socio-economic structure, level of cultural development; family education is usually based on ideology, morality, and relationships of the social layer to which belongs the family.
Family education is inextricably linked with the self-education of adults, their qualities and character traits that ensure effective teaching impact on children.
It’s okay if to slap the child or give him a slap: not painful and effective. Nobody has ever managed to learn through physical punishment. With it you can only suppress, force, but not to teach. By the way, in the end, the children prefer to get a few licks than listening to the endless cries of parents, reproaches and grunts. So this is only the situation when one nonsense replaces another, not giving a result. Permanent physical punishment inhibit the activity contribute to the development of neuroses and fears that threaten physical and mental development. Moreover, it is forbidden Continue reading
How to talk with your child about dad, if dad never or very rarely comes to visit the baby? This question bothers many divorced moms. Ready-made solutions no. The easiest way to tell fictional stories. Sometimes, the stories of the popes-the pilots or sailors moms replace the history of failed marriages… Another option is the Pope-the scoundrels who left mom and child. Both, alas, does not make the child happier. How not to go to extremes? Psychologists offer some guidance.
Love mom and dad – that’s all a child really important. If one parent is not around, for the child is a serious loss. In the framework of the child’s logic, the absence of the Pope interpreted this way: “I was bad, so dad left me.” My mother’s task is to convey to the child all the love to him for some reason, not reached. Would be great to show your child photos of his father, to tell how mom and dad met and were waiting for his appearance. For crumbs is important to know that mom and dad loved each other, and therefore they had such a nice and wonderful child.
The belief that “I am the fruit of love”, helps the child feel good. And here are the details of separation of the parents is not worth telling, as this baby is not concerned. You can just Continue reading