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How not to spoil your child?

When Kostya was born, his mom and dad was 35 years. They had to wait a long time before it happened. Accordingly, great was the joy of that now they have a healthy baby. All the attention, warmth and care was intended now only child. His first attempts to crawl met with enthusiastic applause, the first independent steps is even greater glee. So what, you may ask. Is it wrong when the child pay a lot of attention when you give him a sense of security, marvel at it’s first steps? Of course, all this is so. But nevertheless something was done wrong: literally everything that made little Kostya was anxiously discussed, was celebrated as a holiday. He lifted the spoon to her mouth — applause, knocked over something — applause, pulled up his hands to show how big he is, again applause. And relatives happily clapped their hands not only when the coast was able to do something for the first time, but when he did it for the tenth or twentieth time.

The consequences were not long in coming: soon parents felt for Bones important thing is not to hold the spoon, to give the cube or be able to do anything else. He was interested in already not the things themselves, to which he drew attention, but only applause, which was awarded to his behavior.

The disaster broke out, when the mother’s Bones became Continue reading

The Education of girls ( from 3 to 4, 5 years)

So, let’s continue the conversation about how to properly educate a girl for future motherhood. In the previous article dealt with the period from birth to three years. But time goes on and our girls grow up. So, let’s move on to the next period:

FROM 3 TO 4.5 YEARS

The interaction with the mother. How mom participated in the emotional life of his daughter, depends on the attitude of girls towards their future motherhood. If the girl showed excessive demands, shouted at her, strictly punished, in her mind formed the concept of “bad parents”. Subsequently, this may cause psychological infertility: consciously a woman wants children, but subconsciously insanely afraid to hurt them.

Another important point: did the girl satisfaction with their moms in motherhood, or maybe she was presented it as a thankless labor. If my daughter often hears from his mother’s words: “I’m sick of it! Work for you, and in return, no thanks. “she formed the notion that children are a burden, a source of eternal fatigue and bad mood.

The object to follow. In this age there is another very important need – to imitate. What would mother do, my daughter always wants to participate: to wash, to cook, to knit, to remove. Of course, a small child is more hindrance than help, but it cannot repel.

Playing dolls. The little girl Continue reading

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