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Child steals: causes

Child theft is the so-called “shameful” problems. For any parent this is usually a shock: the child in the family because no one teaches them to steal, and he takes someone else’s…

This child’s behavior is perceived by the family as evidence of his incurable immorality. “We have no one in the family never did!” — I often hear from those affected relatives. Not only that, the child shames the family, the parents of his future is solely criminal. Though actually, in most cases, it’s not all bad.

The idea of what is “mine” and “theirs”, appears after three years, when he begins to develop a sense of self. Nobody in their right mind would call a thief two-three-year-old, who took without asking anyone’s thing. But the older the child, the more likely that his act would be regarded as an attempt to misappropriate, in other words — as “theft”.

The age of the child in such situation is conclusive evidence of awareness of the committed, although it is not always true. (There are known cases, when children are seven or eight years didn’t realize that by adopting someone’s thing, they violate the generally accepted norms, but sometimes, I have five children, committing theft, well aware that doing bad).

For example, could be considered a thief five year old boy who, feeling great sympathy to his peers, Continue reading

What to do if your child is cheating?

Parents wonder why their child is lying, because in their family, this behavior is not practiced.Other parents just burn with shame for their child, lie their baby becomes public property, have already learned teachers or educators. There are among parents and those who are completely deluded by their child’s behavior. They admit that they don’t know what to believe and what not.

But what would have been the reaction of parents to lie to children, the ratio is always unambiguously negative. And the question of what to do and how to wean the child to lie, to tell lies and mislead others in, is very relevant.

A psychologist come when all known methods have been tried. A request or an order “Stop lying!”, the child was ignored, physical punishment does not have the desired effect, and the threats were not heeded. To understand what to do in situations when your child is cheating, let’s see, why and why he does it.

As I said, children lying is a very common phenomenon, but in each case it’s always a unique story. However, in most cases, a lie is a consequence Continue reading

How to teach a child to potty

This question care most moms for generations. And he invariably lead to a whole range of other issues. First of all: when to begin to teach? And also: Which method to choose, the carrot or the stick? Continue to use diapers during this difficult process? What is considered normal and what is a deviation? How to be with nocturnal incontinence? Try to answer these questions together.

In the beginning of our conversation, I want to give one example from life. It includes all possible errors that can make a young inexperienced mother, trying to teach a child to potty.

Alla was only twenty when her life came Andrew, and exactly nine months later a little Slavik. It be caused by inexperience, or simple lack of the necessary literature, but, worn out with sliders and diapers, she decided to start prikazivati Slavik on the potty as early as nine months.

Slavik at first obediently sat thinking that this kind of game, a couple of times even got to the right place. For this mother praised him, and, satisfied with the first small victory, continued to sit son on the potty.

However, the process went into remission. The kid was bored for an hour and sometimes several hours to sit on the potty, and wanted to play, crawl and explore the world Continue reading

The child's relationship with the father after divorce
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