When Kostya was born, his mom and dad was 35 years. They had to wait a long time before it happened. Accordingly, great was the joy of that now they have a healthy baby. All the attention, warmth and care was intended now only child. His first attempts to crawl met with enthusiastic applause, the first independent steps is even greater glee. So what, you may ask. Is it wrong when the child pay a lot of attention when you give him a sense of security, marvel at it’s first steps? Of course, all this is so. But nevertheless something was done wrong: literally everything that made little Kostya was anxiously discussed, was celebrated as a holiday. He lifted the spoon to her mouth — applause, knocked over something — applause, pulled up his hands to show how big he is, again applause. And relatives happily clapped their hands not only when the coast was able to do something for the first time, but when he did it for the tenth or twentieth time.
The consequences were not long in coming: soon parents felt for Bones important thing is not to hold the spoon, to give the cube or be able to do anything else. He was interested in already not the things themselves, to which he drew attention, but only applause, which was awarded to his behavior.
The disaster broke out, when the mother’s Bones became Continue reading
The Montessori method or «help me to do it myself»
Most modern moms and dads, with a shudder remembering the rigors of kindergarten teachers with a team vote or teachers, who forced students to walk in a circle during recess, with understanding and preference are become very popular in recent years the methods of Maria Montessori.
Maria Montessori was an Italian educator and the first woman-doctor — created my own special technique that allows for the education of children. Today it is studied almost all educational institutions do not only our country but the whole world. Many kindergartens today are embracing the Montessori method, which gives significant effects compared to traditional programs.
The fact is that modern society has finally seen that the traditional system is not ideal for the upbringing of the younger generation. That is why there is such keen interest in Montessori. To date the understanding of the inner world of the child this woman and her ideas regarding assistance for its development and formation as a person was very important.
The essence of the method by Maria Montessori
The basis of the method consists in order to include your child in interesting activities. Continue reading
“Stop bitching!” “I forbid you!” “You watch it!?” “Don’t insult me!” and many more exclamations addressed to the child, often proceed from our lips. Why are we yelling at your child when he is naughty, or from their lyubopytno learns, and goes wherever he is banned?
What are the reasons that we’re yelling at your crumbs, sometimes even spanking?
So let’s speculate over the cause of our cry to the child. Well — the first and main reason in us adults — we don’t know how to control it.
Here are a few reasons for this child’s education:
*Education cries because us the same method was raised.
*Parent thinks that he is raising a child, and this method shows a main, thus thinking they have the right, at any nurturing.
*Mom or dad, just not ready to face difficulties. Not ready for that child, despite the mood mom or dad may require attention, or to explore the world as he wants.
*Another reason is, the fatigue and the ability to adequately respond to the demands or whims of the child.
*The parent has his or her own concerns, interests, which are apparently more important than the child.
In General, for many reasons, can be listed as an individual case, as a psychological barrier.
Cry on whims or disobedience of the child, this is not a method of education. By this method we show Continue reading