Child stealing — fairly common problem frightening for any parent who is faced with it. Although almost any child, including their own parents in childhood, at least once took someone else’s: adults usually tend to panic if it happens to their child.
There are several reasons why children steal:
If this little kid, 3–4 years, he usually is not aware of boundaries: where’s your, where someone else. In this age of child stealing cannot even be called such a term, because the child is not aware of property boundaries.
Not high enough self-esteem of the child. This child thinks that the other is always better.
The motivation is to attract the attention of peers: the child has no relations with peers — in the kindergarten, at school, in the yard, and the child, finding no other solution, you may take the money and buy a variety of sweets, treat all these friends, getting the attention and recognition he so wanted and waited. Typically, these thefts tend to make children 6–8 years and adolescents.
Theft may be a way of self-affirmation of the child, and this is also a signal of distress, when the child does not feel enough love of parents towards him or even each other.
Another reason for theft: the desire Continue reading
When Kostya was born, his mom and dad was 35 years. They had to wait a long time before it happened. Accordingly, great was the joy of that now they have a healthy baby. All the attention, warmth and care was intended now only child. His first attempts to crawl met with enthusiastic applause, the first independent steps is even greater glee. So what, you may ask. Is it wrong when the child pay a lot of attention when you give him a sense of security, marvel at it’s first steps? Of course, all this is so. But nevertheless something was done wrong: literally everything that made little Kostya was anxiously discussed, was celebrated as a holiday. He lifted the spoon to her mouth — applause, knocked over something — applause, pulled up his hands to show how big he is, again applause. And relatives happily clapped their hands not only when the coast was able to do something for the first time, but when he did it for the tenth or twentieth time.
The consequences were not long in coming: soon parents felt for Bones important thing is not to hold the spoon, to give the cube or be able to do anything else. He was interested in already not the things themselves, to which he drew attention, but only applause, which was awarded to his behavior.
The disaster broke out, when the mother’s Bones became Continue reading
Nurturing independence in children of preschool age
I want to quote the words of the great teacher of J. Korczak: “If you know how to determine the joy of a child and its power, you should know that the highest joy is overcome the difficulties of the goal achieved, open secrets, the joy of triumph and happiness of independence…”
Usually parents start to think about autonomy in their child when he starts to go to school. However, to begin cultivating this quality need much earlier — and the sooner, the greater success you can achieve.
I invite you to speculate a bit.
Self — reliance is a valuable asset to a man in my life. Can a small child to be independent? (asked parents). (Yes. The child must be a number of things it can do on your own.)
By nature children are very active and very often they tend to do things on their own. But for lack of time or uncertainty about the abilities of the child we strive to make all for it ourselves. What do you think? Do we really your child’s support? (asked parents). (You are absolutely right. Trying to do everything for the child, adult causes him great harm, deprive him of independence.